If you have determined that Sex and Love Addiction is indeed a force in your life and you are ready to
do something about it, then we offer the following suggestions to help you get started.
How to Get Started in S.L.A.A.
- Attend S.L.A.A. meetings regularly. Go to as many as you can.
- It’s a good idea to have some phone numbers of sober members of S.L.A.A. before you leave
the meeting. You may want to get a new phone number at every meeting you attend. If a phone list is not available, ask individual members whether they are willing to receive calls. - Get a sponsor or talk to an S.L.A.A. person on a daily basis for your withdrawal period.
- Define your bottom line behavior.
- Work the Steps.
- Don’t act out – just for today, this hour, this moment – no matter what! IT WILL PASS.
- Ask for help on a daily basis:
- Set aside a time of prayer each morning and ask “Help me to stay away from ________
for today.” - Set aside a time of thanks each night and express gratitude for the help received by
saying “Thank you.”
- Set aside a time of prayer each morning and ask “Help me to stay away from ________
- Join a group. Many of us go to a lot of meetings and feel that we can share at each at each meeting. It is important that we officially join one group where we have a commitment to attend and will be missed if we don’t.
- Get active in your group and in S.L.A.A.
- Become open to the collective wisdom of the group. Through participation in S.L.A.A., we
learn new ways to reduce alienation and isolation from others and to set healthier boundaries. - Read the literature. Keep a journal. Share your feelings.
- Keep Coming Back — It Works!
©1985 The Augustine Fellowship, S.L.A.A., Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc.
Excerpt from Suggestions for Newcomers